About me
We weren’t born just to survive — but to live fully and to be happy!
Why I can help you
Everyone’s story is a little different — but chances are, I’ve been somewhere close to where you are right now.
I lived in chronic stress for decades, stuck in survival mode. I know what chronic fatigue feels like. I know sleep problems. I’ve burned out more than once (not wise, I know). I’ve had to face emotions that had been suppressed and buried for decades. I’ve had to work through deep trauma. I kept going when I had nothing left. I tried to be strong and hold everything together — no matter the cost.
That experience has become invaluable. Because in the process of healing myself, I began learning everything that truly helped. So now I have not only the experience — but also the knowledge, tools, and practices to support others.
And my deepest, most sincere wish is to help others, too — especially to help prevent things from getting that far in the first place. Today, I work with the very people I used to resemble – intelligent, high-functioning, capable experts who are secretly exhausted, overwhelmed and approaching to burnout. Men and women, who don’t respond to superficial solutions or cheerful advice. People who need real nervous system and emotional regulation, stress management, and safe spaces where they don’t have to perform nor prove anything.
If you choose to work with me, I will not “fix” you nor judge you, but I will offer ways how to restore yourself and share different tools for this.
I don’t offer magic and there is no quick fixes. Nervous system regulation, somatic practices, vagus nerve activation, emotional processing, breathwork — these tools are powerful. In fact, they can be life-changing, but one needs to use them. I often describe them as unpacking of zip file or the air valve on a pressure cooker — they help release the emotional and physiological pressure that’s been building up for years or even decades.
But true healing goes deeper – it’s not just about managing symptoms — it’s about changing the story, the relationship you have with yourself, your emotions, and the world around you.
Healing begins when you stop fighting yourself and start listening instead.
I can’t walk this path for you or do something instead of you (VT parem sõnastus), but I can guide and support you. I know it might take some time and effort, but it is truly possible. I help people understand what’s actually happening in their body and emotions — and give them the tools to navigate it. My task is to help you to restore your inner resources and find patterns that have brought you there.
How I work and what to expect when working with me
Your story isn’t fixed – you can rewrite it.
You’ve probably noticed or tendency to repeat our patterns, and probabely heard the phrase: “change your narrative.” But how exactly? And what does that even mean?
We all have a story… or more truthfully, several stories. The ones we tell ourselves— and those stories quietly start shaping how we live. In most cases these stories run somewhere on “backstage” like software programs and we don’t pay much attention to them.
Often, our story is written by the subconscious — shaped by past experiences, hidden beliefs, or protective patterns we’re not even aware of. And then, our life can drift in a direction that doesn’t feel like ours at all.
But that story can be changed. When we start noticing what’s behind it and when we have a safe, supported space to begin that change.
My path to this work wasn’t just a career shift
By education and profession, I’ve been a lawyer for over 30 years. Intelligent, rational, quick-thinking, analytical — that’s the side most people saw. But what they didn’t see was how I was just as good at pushing through stress while ignoring my needs, emotions, and every signal from my body and nervous system.
I worked in the Prosecutor’s Office, in a law firm, in banking, and for the past 24 years in the financial world — inside a large, global corporation. The work was interesting, but also intense, demanding, and far from easy. On the outside, everything looked great — successful, hardworking, high-functioning, “moving forward in life.” And yes, in many ways I was — I enjoyed my work and reached far professionally.
But I also reached dangerously far in how far I could push myself through stone — how completely I could burn myself out by ignoring my system.
The fast pace, constant change, wide scope of responsibility, and the need to always perform… eventually it became physically, emotionally, and mentally exhausting. Add to that the “dutiful Estonian” mindset — where you must keep going, no matter what, wasn’t helpful. Add unresolved emotions, old traumas, imposter syndrome, and a deep need to prove myself… and it’s no surprise I spent decades in chronic stress, living in nervous system survival mode. And it’s also no surprise that I burned out — more than once. What is surprising is that I didn’t really learn much from the first time — and just kept going.
Everyone knows that when a car’s fuel tank is empty and the dashboard lights are flashing red, you can’t drive from Tallinn to Tartu. But when the same thing happens inside us, we somehow believe we’re superhuman — that it’ll just pass. It didn’t. I burned out again. Worse. And even though the first time was bad enough, I didn’t understand what was happening.No one talked about it, and even the doctor didn’t recognize it.
At times, I didn’t recognize myself anymore. I didn’t understand what was wrong. I started acting in ways that went against my values. I forgot everything except external responsibilities. And I wasn’t very pleasant person to be around.
When I finally left my job, which wasn’t easy —but I also felt huge relief. I thought, that I’d take time off, finish some projects at home, take care of the garden, and finally do all the things I had longed to do for years. That was a very naive thought. After a couple of months of doing absolutely nothing, it started realize: the situation was serious. Fortunately, I had strong support, and finally I listened to the advice and started seeking help. It wasn’t easy — and good information was not easy to find.
Eventually, through recommendations, I found an excellent therapist to whom I’m deeply grateful. Knowing that the only way to heal is to first look at yourself and take responsibility for your own part, I dove into finding solutions and learning — intensively. At some point, even that became too much — I had to slow down so I wouldn’t burn out again from trying to “learn everything.”
Still, I completed many courses in a short time and gained tools, skills, and certifications.I studied everything — nervous system regulation, polyvagal theory, emotional regulation techniques, somatic methods, hypnosis, coaching, emocoaching, NLP to name some. It was a lot, yes — but it wasn’t hard for me as this field had actually fascinated me my whole life. And when I started noticing how much my friends and close ones were helped by what I had learned, it inspired me even more.
One day, I told my childhood friend — whom I hadn’t seen in years — what I was doing now. Her response was: “But you’ve actually been doing this your whole life.” That planted a courage to think: Maybe this is what I’m meant to do? After that, things began to flow — doors opened, and here I am now: ready to help those who are struggling with the same things I once faced and don’t know how to get their life back to a place that feels livable.
I have a deep and sincere wish to help — because I know how brutal it can get. Recovery is a journey. And I’m still on it myself. My dream is that people would become aware much earlier, and that employers would become so supportive and conscious that people could actually learn to manage stress, understand themselves, balance their nervous systems — and prevent burnout altogether.